People fall in love with another because they have found someone that can provide them with all their physical and emotional needs, but that is not loving the other ,that is looking out for your own needs, a mere vehicle for self gratification.
I feel real love is not about what you are going to get, but what you are going to give and to find a person that reflects and shines with the beauty of the love you have invested in them. You will love them for revealing to you the part of you in them that is love ...and if this is reciprocated by you with the part of them in you for them to see their love, then you are both giving, you are giving each other the gift of seeing the best virtue illuminating in each other.
We feel the love in ourselves, and see that love in our selves reflected back in the person it is nourishing. Lovingly lovely